As an intuitive coach, I often pull from my life experiences to help others. Intuitive healing is a process, and in that process, you can learn a lot about compromising yourself by compensating for errors.

To exemplify that, the other day I watched a softball coach teaching a young girl how to bat. One after another he placed balls onto a stand and had her hit them into a net. He gave her instruction and then did it again.

She was pretty good, but had a tendency to hit to the right. She was standing correctly, but I thought, "If she moves just a step to her right, she'd get behind the ball and hit it correctly." Then it occurred to me that she wouldn't be hitting correctly. She'd be hitting the ball where it needed to go, but her stance would be off and she'd be compensating for bad form. Instead the coach showed her how to reach further around the ball so that she'd hit it correctly.

This observation caused me to think, "How often do I compensate for errors in myself, my surroundings, or life instead of correcting the error?" My father used to preach ad infinitum, "If you're going to do it, do it right." I hated hearing that. So often I wanted to cheat. But, it never works out.

For example, it was easy to put a wooden match into the hole in my door jamb and replace the screw. I didn't want to go downstairs and get the wood putty, let it dry, and then screw the jamb in later. I wanted to do it right then. I compensated. Of course, the knob never really worked quite right, and 6 months later the screw was loose and I had to complete the whole task again. Compensating for errors never works - you compromise yourself by not correcting the fault properly.

Another example happened when I noticed some fungus growing in my townhouse grass. It was easier at the time to not make a fuss about it to the Association Board. I didn't want to take the time or look like a complainer. I could justify my noncommittal position by saying," I pay Association dues and I'd rather not have to get involved with this."

A couple months later most of the grass had been killed by the fungus and the Association had to have it dug up and reseeded. Maybe I would have seemed like a complainer at the time, or not. In any case, through compensatory negligence the fungus destroyed the lawn. Once again, compensating for errors...

It's also tempting to compensate on personal growth issues. I was upset with something my husband had done last week. I didn't want to discuss it with him, because I thought he would get angry. Rather than face the situation, I was tempted to leave the house and spend the day by myself. I realized that this would be hurting us and depriving us of time together, so I told him in the best way I could about my feelings. And using our communication skills (which we've painstakingly worked on) we were able to work through the issue. We also came to a stronger mutual understanding of not only the issue, but of each other.

Rather than compromising myself by compensating for errors on my or his part, I resolved the problem properly. Compensating - hedging because it feels better at the time - never works. It may seem like the easy way out, but it never is. My Dad was correct. If you're going to do it, do it right. Appropriate action is always the way to go - and is even easiest in the long run.

Next, my Dad's lesson on putting things away - OK, I'll spare you that one for now.

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Viewing adversity in a positive light(be it in business or everyday life) can sometimes amount to asking too much of some of us. As soon as a problem/difficulty appears to go on for longer than we feel we can tolerate. Or if it happens once too often for us to rationalize, we begin looking for someone or something to blame. Then the "Devil"(poor guy) gets accused of trying to make us fail.

Or someone in the "village" is fingered for "using remote control" to make our fortunes go sour. It can get worse - sometimes friends/relatives tell the affected person s/he must have done something wrong and ask him to pray for God to stop demonic attacks etc. This article presents timeless wisdom (based on testimonies by entrepreneurs of repute), and a narrative of a personal experience, that completely invalidate these frequently perpetuated myths.

Some People (Wrongly) Believe "Suffering" Only Comes To Those Who Do "Wrong"

Certain people wrongly believe that difficulty should never come the way of a person who strives honestly to achieve success - especially if s/he proclaims faith in God. Yet the evidence all around us proves irrevocably that it is often those who have passed through difficulty successfully, that end up achieving the successes they desire.

To drive home the point I'm trying to make here, I will refer to the very illuminating insight offered by a veteran entrepreneur - James R. Cook - in his best selling book "The Start up Entrepreneur". He said that based on elaborate studies he had done of the lives of hundreds of entrepreneurs, he had come to the conclusion that there is a correlation between the amount of suffering a person undergoes before succeeding, and the degree of success s/he eventually achieves.

Going further, he explained that persons who set big goals for themselves should look forward to enduring long drawn periods of worry and painful adversity, adding that as the amount of suffering endured increases, so is the success ultimately recorded likely to increase too.

What Is The Purpose Of Suffering?

Any aspiring entrepreneur with a sound understanding of the "purpose of adversity" at the back of his/her mind, will be able to face squarely the business of paying his/her dues, ultimately, earning the right to enviable heights of success aimed for.

Jim Rohn advises that we should learn to view life as requiring us to succeed in spite of adversity and not in its absence. This is because, if there is no adversity, there cannot be achievement! Sounds simple - yet it CAN be so difficult to remember when one is going through adversity(I KNOW this because I have been "there" many times!). Which is why reading - as a habit - is essential. Reading helps to maintain mental stamina through repeated contact with words that communicate truths like those Jim Rohn shares, to us, so we can stay strong in those times of true testing.

A Personal Experience

I think I should give a personal example here. Some years ago, I placed an advertisement in The Guardian newspaper for a seminar, only to have a ZERO turnout of attendees on the scheduled date! After discussing about it for a while with a friend, I was able to arrive at 4 major faults with my plans/preparations that could have led to the problem. But rather than leave it at that, I decided to document the experience for use in future seminars as an EXAMPLE of how things can go wrong.

So, while still at the venue, I got my video cameraman to do a 10 minute recording of me, speaking about what had happened and what we believed had led to it. We deliberately added humour to the video clip by showing all the EMPTY seats in the seminar hall, and finally focusing on the wall clock, which showed it was already 1.00pm(planned seminar start time was 11.00am!).
You see, I made up my mind to use the lessons learnt from that "failure" to make myself better in every way possible. The memory of that failure DROVE me to be extra prepared for every project I undertake. And this has helped me win more high profile clients in my work.

It's a habit I developed years ago - and it made me quite successful when I was in paid employment. Read my article titled "How To Turn A Major Blunder At Work Into A Career Advancement Opportunity " to learn more.

Summary
So, let me challenge you. From today, stop asking why your plans are not going as well as another person's. Begin to understand and appreciate the fact that you will have to find YOUR own unique path to achieve YOUR own success, which will require you to periodically deal with the challenge of unpleasant situations, in form of diverse visitations of adversity.

Know today that suffering - or adversity - is not bad - except you see it as bad. The perspective you adopt is what determines whether a particular experience is bad or good for you. If you choose to actively search for, and utilise the (ever present - but often hidden - potential equivalent) benefits of every experience of suffering you undergo, you will be better off for it over time.

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A big fashion story for this season is the use of white, which can create a great look for making a first impression. As the weather gets hotter, crisp whites will be keeping us cool this summer. White, often thought of as a pure and clean colour was a constant feature on the catwalks for this season. But rather than using it as a cold, clinical colour the designers are using soft-luxe clean lines to convey a luxurious, stylish, high maintenance look. From pared-down sheath styles at Calvin Klein to Dolce and Gabbana's pretty broderie anglaise mixed with crystal and lace there's something for almost everyone this season in white.

Many people will perhaps be a bit sceptical of the whole white look but here a personal stylist explains about how to go about wearing white this season.

What rules should you follow?

White will be smart and chic this season rather than the creased white linen look of the last decade. The two main silhouettes are sophisticated body-con or slightly more flared and flirty. Grown up pieces can be mixed with younger, sporty items, for example a short, pleated skirt with a single breasted crisp blazer. Every piece needn't be new and you can use a classic white shirt from your wardrobe.

You may think that white is too boring to make a great first impression. Well, far from it. You can use white pieces with brights or florals this season but top-to-toe white is definitely a high impact look. To make your white look more interesting, use different textures and weights of fabrics. Cotton, lace, satin and silk blends, transparent and opaque fabrics will all be popular.

What about accessories?

For most impact make sure all your accessories are white as well as your outfit. There will be plenty of white plastic-framed sunglasses and straw hats available on the high street to add extra glamour. A heavy black bag or pair of sandals will spoil the look so invest in white versions of these also.

Won't white drain my colouring?

Bright white throughout can be draining, especially if your skin-tone is very warm. To avoid the look becoming too stark, use various white tones such as winter white, ivories and creams. A small amount of gold or nude shades can also be worn in accessories to warm the look.

How to wear make-up to go with white

To finish the all-white look this season, the make-up needs to be pretty fresh and natural. The skin should look flawless and glowing so use a skin adjuster to conceal any blemishes. Invest in an illuminating foundation and powder or bronzer. Keep the lip colour nude and ensure eye make-up looks minimal.

Should anyone avoid white?

So should everybody wear white? Certainly not. Mums with toddlers shouldn't even contemplate it at the moment unless it's for a special occasion when the children won't be going with them. Anyone who is conscious of carrying a little extra weight probably won't feel very comfortable or confident in white. Darker colours do make things look smaller and whilst larger women shouldn't always be hiding in black, they should only go for the white look if the outfit is very well cut and flattering to their bodies.

So if you're thinking of trying something new and want to make elegant, chic first impressions this summer, why not go for white?

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Learning how to be patient with people can be challenging for some. After all, not everybody is gifted with eternal patience. The good news is that it is something that can be learned and eventually perfected.

Let me show you how to be patient with people.

Step 1: Think Of Them Fondly.

When the customer before you takes ages to pay for his or her groceries, doesn't that just grind your gears? You tap your foot impatiently and cough every now and then; but no, the customer is still not hurrying up. It takes all of your power not to make a scene.

However, if you picture that customer to be someone you like (say your partner or your crush), then you will find yourself not getting too annoyed, right?

So the next time you find yourself losing patience with somebody, simply visualize that person to be someone you really, really like and your patience will extend its life.

Step 2: Whistle A Happy Tune.

The second step on how to be patient with people involves whistling. When you whistle a happy tune, you are instantly uplifted.

You can hum your favorite song if you can't whistle - it really doesn't make a difference. What's important here is that you did something that makes you feel good. And when you feel good, you are more inclined to be patient with the people around you.

Step 3: De-stress.

When you're stressed, it's almost impossible to learn how to be patient with people. Before you can even think of tapping into your inner Mother Teresa, you've got to find a way to relax first.

If you know you're going to be in a situation where your patience will be tested, meditate or get yourself a massage first. Don't dive into anything unless you've managed to cleanse yourself off of negative vibes.

Here's a formula you need to remember: the more stressed you are, the faster you'll lose your temper. The less stress you have in your life, the longer your patience.

Learning how to patient with people is not a necessity in life. You've seen people who manage to survive day to day with incredibly short tempers after all. But do you really want to live like they do? If, however, you want a life that has better quality than that, then just follow these steps and embrace the fact that patience is a virtue.

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Yes or no?

Stay or go?

Like it or not, decisions are all around us. Some of them - like who to marry - have major life-long consequences. Others - like what to do on a Saturday night - are relatively minor. But, there are plenty of people who find it difficult to make even simple decisions. Just the thought of having to make a choice sends a lot of people into a fit of anxiety.

Making things more complicated, decisions aren't always black and white. When it comes to things like careers, money, and relationships, there's a lot of gray. And, when it comes to most decisions, the best choice isn't always obvious. Sometimes, there are glimmers of possibility on all sides.

So, how are you supposed to know which choice is right for you?

The next time you have to make a decision, you need to start by asking yourself these 4 questions:

1. What can you get out of the decision?

Because there are no guarantees in life, making a decision is a lot like taking a chance. But you may be willing to risk more if the payout is big. Sure, that new job sounds intimidating and it would entail working some long hours, but if you can make enough money to send your kids to college, isn't the challenge worth it?

2. What's the worst that can happen?

Sure, it may sound pessimistic, but it's a very important question.

Let's say you're trying to decide whether or not to ask out that beautiful girl in your history class. If she says no, it'll be disappointing and a little embarrassing. But, really, what's the worst that can happen? You won't die from the embarrassment. The semester will be over soon and you'll never have to see her again. In the grand scheme of things, you don't have much to lose by asking her out.

Or, if you're thinking about buying a new house with your girlfriend, you may discover there's actually a lot that can go wrong. What's the worst that can happen? You could break up. Then, who'd keep the house? Who'd keep paying the mortgage? What would happen to all of the money you've already invested in the house? If you have a lot to lose, you may not be so willing to take the chance.

No one likes going into a situation thinking about the negatives, but, by giving them some thought, those negatives may spell out the right decision!

3. Does this have to be done right now?

You may discover making a certain decision is too risky right now - but that doesn't mean you can't go through with it a week from now, a month from now, or a year from now. Remember, you can always change your mind later.

Let's say you're thinking about buying a particular stock. You might feel the current price is just a little too high (and, thus, you could lose a lot of money if it suddenly tanks). However, you might decide if the price drops a little bit later, then you can move forward with the purchase. You're not putting off making a decision; you're just reserving the right to modify things later!

4. What's your gut telling you?

Sometimes, weighing all of the pros and cons just isn't enough. A lot of times, that little voice inside your head is telling you what to do - and hoping you'll listen. A gut feeling can be just as strong as listing the positives and negatives. If something just feels right or wrong, it probably is.

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Have you ever thought which the most important thing is that is required to become successful in life? There are various things that might come to your mind at this point of time. Among the various other things self improvement is the key to success.

This is an important subject these days and there are lots of people who pursue this subject. But we should all make sure that this subject is not kept only for academic purposes. You should practice this subject practically so that you can move ahead successfully towards a goal.

With the help of proper self improvement plan you can improve your abilities as well as skills to perform better. This subject is also related to personal development. If you start a developing procedure for yourself the always make sure you do it for outside as well as inside development.

You need to choose a good personal development plan so that you can achieve success in life. First of all it can help guide your life and take it towards success. Other than this, it will also help you find out which is the right direction for you.

Once you find the right direction you can move ahead to a bright future. These plans can also be your support during the tough times. You should remember that life is not always smooth. You will see both good times as well as bad times.

If you do not know how to overcome the rough times you will never be successful in moving ahead in life. First of all if you have problems in life then accept them. If you do not believe that a problem exists then you cannot solve it.

The second step is to create a good plan. You should be very clear about what you want to do and what not to do. You must always have one aim in your mind. It is important to choose practical steps to reach the goal. Proper personal growth is possible only when you create practical plan.

Personal development will also help you create the right kind of attitude that is required to achieve success in life. If you are unable to develop yourself personally then you can always seek some help from your near and dear ones.

Your family and friends can always be of great help. Their support is necessary to make yourself strong. You will surely find a difference within a few weeks of following the plan properly. People who care for us will always help us to make our lives better.

You should not be ashamed of asking for help from these people who care for you. There are various websites which might provide you with top personal development plan. But it is very important to choose your plans correctly.

Self improvement products like books and CDs are also available which can be of great help. You should reassess the plan from time to time to make sure that it does not become stagnant.

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Achievement in Action DVD by Brian Tracy is a special program designed to help you realize your goals and put forth the action necessary to attain them. Not everyone has the motivation necessary to reach out and grab the things they want in life. Some people don't even have the time or motivation to sit down and create a plan for their life. Without direction, you have nothing.

This program provides you with a set of instructions to follow, which makes achieving big successes relatively simple. Perhaps the only problem that you might develop with this program is that it calls for action. The truth is that people love to dream. There is nothing unpleasant about a fantasy, until you realize that a fantasy is all that it ever will be unless you do something about it.

The Achievement in Action DVD by Brian Tracy helps you to conjure up what it is that you need to get moving. Instead of sitting around and letting your life pass you by, this DVD will help you to realize that you don't have as much time as you think. There is a grand possibility that you might die a loser - basically.

Some people have no goals. If you don't have goals, that is fine. This program will provide you with the information and inspiration you need to realize what you want out of life. Assume that you're perfectly content with the way things are. Most people don't think about taking it to the next level, especially when they're already happy with the way things are. However, if one thing is for sure, it is that nothing can ever stay the same. There will be a time where you find yourself feeling dissatisfied again with your circumstances, craving more gratification, more money, and more happiness.

The Achievement in Action DVD by Brian Tracy also provides you with the information needed to help you feel alive again. Think about your life and the times when you've felt the most alive. There is a fair chance that the times when you felt the most lively is when you've been in action, working toward goals and higher achievements.

Sometimes, all people need is a little nudge in the right direction. Once you get going, there will likely be no stopping you, but then again that all depends on how motivated you are to achieve your dreams. What is it in life that is driving you? Better yet, what is it that you are afraid of in life that is preventing you from doing what you want?

People who get things done are some of the most confident individuals on the planet. It is those who sit around and do nothing that frequently find themselves suffering from depression, weight problems, and other mood and health problems. A life without achievements can very well lead to a boring life and one dissatisfied individual. The Achievement in Action DVD by Brian Tracy helps you to understand that you're only going to be happy when you're "doing" and not simply sitting around.

Your life will pick up the momentum necessary to help you feel satisfied with who you are and the environment and energies that surround you. You'll quickly realize that you're capable of so much more than you've given yourself credit for. You'll also realize that your dreams can become a reality and that everything you want is already yours, just waiting for you to reach out and obtain it.

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That is what I said...Americans are living longer. So how are you preparing for your financial and physical future?

Years ago, you finished your education, got a J.O.B. and worked for as many years as it took to get to retirement age. You got your pension, added some social security and drove off into the sunset for the rest of your life. Keywords... rest of your life.

Today, we are living much longer, and with the downturn in the economy a few years ago, many things have changed. If you are still lucky to have a 401, many have turned into 101s or less. Have you been able to change with those times? Many have not. Many have lost jobs due to downsizing due to a particular industry just dying on the vine. Companies are relocating to save on taxes and for many other reasons. People loosing their homes. It has not been easy for many people.

So we are living longer, but it comes with many challenges. These challenges can certainly put us to the test, but we as a people can stand up to the test.

The test of living a more productive life is crucial. Stay in good physical condition. Exercise daily. Eat healthy. Prepare for your later years financially. All these can be controlled. Just prepare for a long healthy, financially sound future.

There are many ways to produce the result that you want for both your physical and financial future.

Just having a pension and social security does not cut it today. With the prices of just about everything going up drastically, you need to have invested wisely. But lets face it... there a many that did not have the opportunity to do all that.

All is not lost. There is still time. It will take a lot of hard work to prepare for the future, but it can be done.

There are many opportunities, even in this down economy. But you have to be smarter than before, and in many instances you cant do it alone. Find the right combination of investments and a person who has experience to guide you step-by step and it can work.

No matter what your age is, financial freedom can be obtained.

Be pro-active in both your physical and financial well being.

Things are much different then they were. Be ready to handle what ever comes.

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"To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you." - Lewis B. Smedes

Like most people, I am sure you have often struggled with the question of how to love your enemy. I bet that just thinking about "loving" your enemy makes your stomach go sour, your blood boils and body cringes. I am sure you can think of a lot of other things you'd like to do to your enemy other than "love" them right? Naturally, how can you "love" your enemy when your heart is overflowing with anger, resentment and hostility?

People often say, "keep your enemies closest", or "kill em' with kindness". Those words are so easy to say, but what do those words really mean, and how can you truly apply those words to your life without being fake, vengeful, or condescending? We first must take a genuine look at your enemy. Who is that person/persons who offends you so much? Who stuffs your heart full of resentment and hate, and why? Could it be because they are not acting as you would like them too, or because they don't agree with you, or maybe they aren't giving you the attention you require? Why are you choosing to hold this person hostage to your beliefs? It's a free country, isn't it? Don't we all have the right to think and feel as we wish?

Try and remove yourself from the scenario for a moment and think about how "your enemy" feels as you try and lock him/her up, forcing him/her into your little judgmental box. I bet your enemy has that "bad attitude" because they are fighting against your need to control and imprison them. Why must you be so concerned and focused on how they choose to live their life, anyway? Their lives have nothing to do with you. You are not required to agree with them, nor are they required to agree with you. "Agree to disagree, right"?

Maybe it's time to just set them free, just throw away that key. Unlock your own self-defeating perspective by being more "careless" as Dr. Stein of Zone healing says. Once you take this little leap, you'll quickly realize "the enemy" this whole time was you. This battle was happening within you. There is so much freedom in that, isn't there? Then you can be free to focus your energy on enriching the positive things in your life like your family, yourself, or being grateful for all you have. Hey, what do you have to lose? Bitterness, frustration, anger? What do you have to gain? Yourself.

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Life can be quite difficult sometimes. The following seven tips should help you recognise the different factors that can contribute towards a rewarding and fulfilling life:

1) Don't settle for second best - 2nd is not the place you want to be. No-one runs a race to come second. Aim for first and go for it! But there is also fun in taking part so don't forget that. But also try your best. If your best turns out to not be good enough then try harder next time but if you have genuinely tried your best then don't worry and go back to the old drawing board and find something that you're good at.

2) Love everyone - this includes your enemies. Be quick to forgive. Don't hold grudges. A Christian lady once stated "Unforgiveness is like drinking poison yourself and expecting the other person to die". Don't hold resentment or allow your thoughts to be consumed by negativity towards other people.

3) Always eat something nice - my sister says "I wasted my hunger on that". What she means by this is don't eat something bad when you could have something that is of equal value that is good.

4) Always right your wrongs - if you do or say something wrong then apologise and repent. You've heard the saying "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" well disregard this because words are powerful and they can be damaging. Words can cut like a sword. Always take back words that slip from your tongue.

5) Always eat your greens - green vegetables are great for you so always consume a balanced diet.

6) Buy the best possible - buy cheap buy twice, you've heard that old saying. Don't buy inexpensive rubbish that won't last. Instead, always purchase the very best quality product that you can afford.

7) Always look on the bright side of life - I know that this phrase was coined by the popular comedy sketch show but it is oh so true. Never concentrate on the negatives in a given situation, just look at the positives. Of course the bad side exists and should be recognised and considered and mistakes should be learnt from but the good bits and the great things in life should be focused upon.

Take care and always consider these top seven ways of leading a happier life.

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When you wake up are you jumping out of bed with excitement? Most people are not zealous about waking up and doing the same thing on Wednesday as they did on Monday and Tuesday.

I have realized that as a human we were wired to do certain things. Depending on your personality and your likes. You were wired with personality. There is a difference in personality and character.

The definition of personality is:the visible aspect of one's character as it impresses others.

The definition of character is:moral or ethical quality

People with completely opposite personalities can have the same character.

So let's break it down. Someone with a social butterfly, spontaneous and fun lovin' personality is going to dread going to an office job where there isn't a lot of interaction with people. Those kind of personalities would rather be going to work where interaction with people is a must, like an event planner. They thrive off being social with people.

On the other hand, someone who has a personality of a thinker, loves facts and figures and organization. Is going to feel overwhelmed with a social job. They would much rather be diligently working by themselves and feeling satisfaction of the results they are accomplishing.

So this is what happens when we are doing something that we were not wired to do. We begin to break down and feel defeated. It is not your job that is the problem, it just may be that you are operating in a way that you weren't wired to do. A lot of feeling defeated could have come from our childhood. When we were told not to act a certain way or to calm down.

My daughter and I are complete opposite personalities. She is the most social outgoing person. I really enjoy reading a book and having quiet time. She thinks that's boring and would dread that is I asked her to join me. I have learned that I need to appreciate who she is and not squelch her personality just because she is so different from myself.

For me, I would feel totally out of my zone if I was a concert promoter. Always on the road and around tons of people. Now, my daughter would be in dream land. She thrives on being on the go and having fun.

Whatever you may be going through don't feel bogged down. Just reevaluate the situation. It's not your fault the way your personality is. That is the beauty of human beings. We all have something entirely different to offer this universe. You were born and wired that way.

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Part 2 of 4

In part one of this four-part article, I related a story. It was about my six year old being excited about an infomercial product he had seen on TV. I think it was for a mop or something.

It is interesting how even a 6 year old can be taken in by pretty smiles, seeming effortlessness, and the word 'easy'.

Isn't that the way billions are made every year?

Easy, quick, free, now. I love the, 'It's all done for you. You don't have to lift a finger'. Oh, the beauty of words.

And it isn't just infomercials on late night TV. Surf the web and you will find all the never before seen ways to get rich in 2 weeks.

My favorites are the ones that show an exotic location and an umbrella drink. Heck, that's something that'll make a person part with their cash right now. Throw in the word easy with that picture and most self-respecting folk quickly lose any will power they had left. There are no rules or any untapped areas to market. If you want to make millions blogging, you can. Buy the product they're selling.

Never mind that they haven't made millions.

Just about any product carries a disclaimer. Why all the disclaimers?

A few reasons:

The marketing. People in general are lazy. The first sign of real work they see causes them to quit. Why do I put this under marketing? Remember how the product was marketed: Easy? Now? You don't have to do a thing? That is precisely why it was bought. The system may actually work, but it isn't going to be tried because it was marketed as easy. I think most products work to some extent.You really aren't going to get rich overnight. Even when a person is considered an overnight success, groundwork has been laid and a foundation built. I don't know what the odds are with buying one lottery ticket in your whole life and it being a winner, but I imagine they are great. So, even with winning the lottery, groundwork has been laid (by the buying of tickets on a regular basis). I know several internet marketers. If you read their posts, forums or comments, you will see that it took some of them years to get where they are. Few have made a million dollars. Very few. Yet, especially in this group, products are being plugged letting you know how easy it is.The disclaimer comes after they rev you up. You get fired up watching, reading or hearing about this next best thing. You are all ready to press the button and get rich, skinny and reside on easy street. Your momentum is slowed down only a little by reading that, 'these results are not typical'. You assure yourself that they may not be for some people, but you're willing to work on easy more than most folk are. You take a chance.

You quickly discover that you won't be living on easy street any time soon with this. It really isn't easy. You quit in frustration.

By the way friend, don't quit on me. The conclusion to this four part article is worth the price being charged (I think maybe a little more).

Come on over and chat at todayhaspower. There are some excellent FREE tools that are guaranteed (to be free).

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Excess hair on any part of the body can be a very disturbing and bothering for any individual who finds it annoying. If regular shaving and waxing is something that you hate to do, there is a way out - permanent hair reduction treatments! Yes, this is available now and it can help you to get rid of your unwanted body and facial hair on a permanent reduction basis. This is a proven and effective way of keeping unsightly body hair from growing back and keeps your skin hair-free and smooth. Most celebrities undergo this procedure as it is acknowledged as the most effective, painless and permanent hair reduction removal technique that is available in the cosmetic world.

One of the popular permanent hair reduction treatments is the laser hair removal which works through the intense application of a measured amount of radiation, targeted to disable the hair follicles in the body part from which hair is to be removed it takes a longer duration session than IPl. It is essential to get this treatment done from a licensed and accredited clinic as the strength of the treatment required is likely to vary from person to person, depending upon the type of skin and hair that the client has, and a unqualified person treating you can result in a harmful treatment.

What you need to know about IPL Treatments

IPL permanent hair reduction treatment is fast gaining popularity as the most updated method for permanent hair reduction. This is a certified and accredited method which can safely and effectively be used to remove unwanted body hairs from different parts of the face and body. Like laser hair removal, IPL too works on the basis of thermally damaging the hair follicle but does vary in nature and technique. IPL uses specific wavelengths of radiation like laser, but additionally ensures that it is optimum for the melanin pigmentation which absorbs it. It is much safer for the skin too and is reported to cause less skin damage than other methods.

IPL treatment is offered by reputed salons which conduct the procedure under safe and hygienic conditions. However, do not expect to walk out of the salon hairless after a single session. The sessions are usually spaced every 4 - 6 weeks and are reported to clear a good percentage of hair in as less as 6 months time.

Permanent hair reduction treatments are available for both men and women and are seen to yield good results in both cases. So if you have made up your mind to put an end to the tiring waxing and shaving routine for good, you can safely opt for this procedure for permanent and effective hair reduction.

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Monks are great inspirations for simplifying your life. In fact, most of them live their life based solely on that principle. However, people don't exactly have direct access to these monks since most of them live in temples and monasteries.

If you want to know how to go about simplifying your life the way monks do, then let me share with you just how these guys do it.

Step 1: Slowly But Surely.

What's the rush? In your haste to do your homework or get to school, you end up forgetting a bunch of different things. That then leads to you making a mess out of everything. One thing leads to another, remember?

If you want to simplify your life, don't rush everything you do.

If you're worried about being late for class because you wanted to be slow and sure in preparing your things, then wake up early so you'll have enough time to do things slowly and surely. Monks are quite famous for being early birds too, you know.

Step 2: One At A Time.

Simplifying your life shouldn't be too hard. But if you're the type who just loves to multi-task, then it's no wonder you're all over the place.

Why don't you try doing things one at a time? Make sure you plan your schedule well, so that you'll have time to do all that you have to do today.

If you really need to multi-task, however, make sure that you pair the easy tasks with those requiring more concentration. For example, you can babysit while studying for your exams or you can make breakfast while you're catching the morning news.

Step 3: Discipline Yourself.

To be honest, simplifying your life is easy. Sometimes, people make things complicated. They're the ones who are inviting all the drama into their lives. Think about it. You always have a choice whether or not you'll entertain something in your life or not.

So one of your co-workers (who you're not attracted to) has a crush on you - it's up to you how you want to interpret it. If you want a simple life, then don't pay any attention to that fact. Unwanted office romance - that can get pretty complicated, don't you think?

These are the necessary steps to simplifying your life. After reading this article, I hope that you can now sort out your life and have a very simple yet very fulfilling life. You don't have to be exactly like a monk to have a peaceful life, but it sure doesn't hurt to make like one!

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Part 3

The Disclaimer

We all know about the disclaimer. You know the part at the end that's written really small or that's said at turbo speed?

Now imagine a disclaimer like this at the beginning of an ad:

We wanted to take time before you hear about our product to let you know what the reasonable chances are that you will make any money at all. We wanted to let you know the time required to do so. By reasonable, we mean if you are willing to work hard at it. By time, we mean that it will take you approximately 30 hours to break through at all. You can do this in three years at 10 hours a year. Or, you can do it in three days at 10 hours a day. By breaking through, we mean that you will have made your first five dollars (exactly). To make more you will have to keep working and tweaking said system. Exactly seven people have made over $11,000 using this method. The quickest to reach the 11k plateau made it there after 9 months. He was a real go-getter. Don't expect to press a button and have it happen. You must work to achieve the examples we have given.

We have sold 4,037 units of this specific product. Here is the breakdown of units sold: 2,100 units went unopened (1,400 sold at garage sales), 800 were opened but unused, 740 units were opened with part of the first chapter being read, 374 made it to the second chapter and stopped, the remaining 23 units were read completely. Out of those, 19 made some attempt at using the methods taught in the product. You have read about the seven who made it already.

It is very unlikely that if you do exactly as instructed in the product, that you will ever get rich from it. Although rich is a relative term. I will clear this up for you. It is very unlikely you will make over 50k dollars in any one given year using this product. Also, being that markets are constantly changing, this information may be of little use to you. This will not prevent us from marketing it to you.

Now, that we have finished the disclaimer, let's have a looksee at the ad for the product.

Easy System!!!!! Never Seen Before! Get Rich Beyond Your Wildest Dreams....etc.

Of course we have to have our vague testimonials:

'I'm not waiting on my dreams any longer'.'I was broke, but I can see how this will help me'.'I just made my first money with this system. I'm excited'.'I'm buying today because I'm ready to live my life to the fullest'.

You may not be a buyer of said product any longer. You may decide that there are better ways to spend a few bucks. Then again, you may just take them up on their offer because you know that, barring something catastrophic, you will make it work. You are persistent, and you want it bad enough. Perfect.

There is one more article in this four part series. You may want to read the conclusion. Go read it now while it's fresh on your mind. You won't be disappointed. When you're done with that, come on by todayhaspower. The coffee is on.

See you at the ranch...

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Military watches, as their name suggests, have been developed for use inside the armed forces. The very first military watches had been naval pieces, chronometers that worked well for their purposes, but as other branches of the military - aviation in specific - produced main technological advances around the time of the Second World War, precise seconds became crucial. As the saying goes, "necessity is the mother of invention," and Navigator watches were born.

Military watches were once manufactured for the military although over the years. Presently, you may get plenty of young men and women making use of these watches for fashion. The market for these watches has indeed grown and also hence new patterns are coming out. Besides functionality, manufacturers of Swiss military watches have factored in fashion to their patterns. These watches are readily available in fairly handy specifically ought to you're involved in activities which need explorations. You can find actually watches which likewise work as a compass. They can work as light sources. Hence, they're obtainable in valuable when you are on an expedition trip.

There are really shops and also manufacturers which offer personalized Swiss military watches according to customers' likings. Hence you are able to decide which capabilities to may sure inside your watch. You are sure which your watch matches your standard outfits.

As the days of World War II faded into memory and the strained peace of the Cold War became reality, military budgets and military technologies boomed. Inside the era of nuclear bombs the airplane ascended to its most potent military and political role in history. Watchmakers rose to the call by designing an instrument worthy of going into battle with humankind's most effective weapon. Those were the glory days of the military watch, even though nobody style house can claim full credit for the strides made inside the business in the course of that time.

Things got better for the organization only a few years later when the American Air Force asked for their own brand of watches to be produced. The company was naturally quick to say yes and developed the seal model to suit pilots on their bombing missions. Soon that had the best to provide watches for the entire aviation industry plus the potential for a new line of product for the average consumer. Once more the sales had been a brilliantly profitable. The Air force was only too willing to put their name to the item in an attempt obviously improve their image.

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The Silva Method Mastery Course by Robert B. Stone truly is a revolutionary concept. You will discover that it has the potential to open doorways that would be otherwise be closed had you not gained insight into a strategy intended to improve how your mind works.

The Silva Method Mastery Course does provide that much needed strategy. Those that take advantage of it will discover their prior limited potential becomes unlimited. This program most definitely teaches you a clear process for enhancing the power of the mind. The steps it details for engaging in the learning process are simple and effective. Such an approach will certainly prove appealing to many.

With the context of this program is the development and enhancement of the Alpha State. Such a state entails tapping into a component of the human mind where a great deal of latent power may exist. We rarely use our mind to its fullest potential and Robert B. Stone does present a strategy in which you can boost success potential quite significantly. The human mind is a complex creature. One of the drawbacks of its complexity is the fact that we never use it to its full potential. If the mind is not working to its full potential, other aspects of life will be impacted and impacted negatively. The Silva Method Mastery Course by Robert B. Stone helps you discover the proper pathway to allow your mind to work and work effectively.

This is a very comprehensive program. It consists of 10 compact disks, 1 DVD, and a thorough workbook. The combination of these many varied components sets the stage for a solid learning endeavor. The learning paradigm presented will help you gain a firm grip on your learning process. The high level of organization in The Silva Method Mastery Course by Robert B. Stone helps facilitate such learning and does so effectively.

The Silva Method Mastery Course is a well developed and well devised one. It is not weighed down by fluff and it does not consist solely of platitudes. This is a course that can help you achieve the personal excellence that you have long sought after in your life. The way it does this is simple: it helps you gain the appropriate insight into making your mind work effectively. Okay, this might not be all that simple in theory or practice. However, the process can be done with the right attitude and approach. If you bring such attributes to the table when undertaking The Silva Method Mastery Course, you will discover your potential to improve in life is enhanced tenfold.

Again, this is no exaggeration. The program has been specifically designed to provide results and achieve such results in a relatively limited amount of time. Yes, you do need to put a lot of effort into the program to see results. However, such results will arrive with said effort as this program is a solid one intended to yield a positive outcome.

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So you don't have time to attend a Time Management seminar, then here are four ideas to help you create a more productive day. First, the key to such a day is to create more discretionary time and use it more wisely. Second, remember you are not paid for work, you are paid for results. Third, you need to control your day instead of it controlling you. The number one idea is to begin by analyzing your typical day. To do this you need to do a simple Time Log. This is done by taking an 8.5 x 11 sheet of paper and numbering each line in fifteen minute increments starting with the time you arrive at work. (Note; do not start when you are supposed to be there but when you actually arrive.) Then, throughout the day, record your activities. You need to do this for two weeks. Then, look for time wasters and ways to create more discretionary time.

There are two kinds of time; discretionary - meaning you have a choice of how to spend it, and non-discretionary - that which is taken up by job functions, meetings, and appointment. Your time log may surprise you as to how much discretionary time you have each day. To make a truly productive day, you need to spend this time wisely. Remember this about your job, you are given more than you can accomplish - this is called job security. The idea is to determine what will give you the best results and then delegate the rest.

The number one time on your Time Log will, in all probability, be interruptions. These must be eliminated or minimized. To be more productive you first need to determine just who is interrupting you and then why they keep showing up. Once you have identified the reason, correct it, remember to be vigilant with time but kind to people.. Consider that you may be part of the problem, by socializing and therefore extending the interruption. In order to become more effective, don't socialize when you are busy, save it for later.

There are two ways to help you stay focused; first a note on your desk saying, "What is the best use of my time right now," and second have your "to do list" in plain sight. Many people create to do lists but they are often just reminders of what has to be done and therefore become just frustrations. when not everything gets done. If this is your experience, then you are letting events control your day instead of you controlling them. What needs to happen is for you to priotrize your to do list and think about which items need to get done in order to give you the best results. You should develop the habit of doing the most important things first and working down the list in order of priority. You have probably heard of the Praeto Principle or 80/20 rule; specifically that 80 percent of your results come from 20 percent of your activities. It follows then that by concentrating on those 20 percent items you will gain more results. A reminder here is not to fool yourself to thinking that doing the easy things first you will have more time for the larger more important items. You will most always run out of time and wind up working late or taking work home. These so called easy items are prime targets for delegation.

Here is a tip for creating more discretionary time for yourself; schedule a one hour meeting with yourself every day. Put this on your calendar and follow it every day. Your "time log" will give you the best opportunity when to do this. Then, close your door, put "crime scene tape" across your cubicle, or go to a conference room. Be sure to have someone take your calls and tell them where you are in case of an emergency. In your private meeting, work first on your number one priority and don't leave it til it is done and then move on to the next one. (A tip here: if you schedule your meeting and for some reason you get a higher priority, then reschedule it for later.) The chances are you will never get everything done, but you will be working on the most important items and this will give you the results you want. This can lead to a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction which is usually missing from most people who do not follow good time management practices.

One final note: when you start controlling your day, plan on a time to leave. You will be amazed that things will be done and you can truly put balance in your life. That truly is a fleeting thing for most people.

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Sandra Rodman is the Director of Extollo Pty Ltd which provides personal and professional self development seminars and resources. She has had a varied career ...

One cold winter's day, a student told his teacher he had found harmony and therefore would not be making any further changes in life. She smiled and said, "The still and calm pond appears harmonious until its very stillness results in stagnation. It is the rhythm, the bubble and the sparkle of the stream that is constantly moving and changing which results in harmony. Are you the stream or the pond?" We'd all like to be the stream and proudly say that we can embrace change and all it stands for. However, we know that sometimes... even when we know we should change... we don't. Why is that?

Two researchers, Prochaska and Diclemente postulated a cycle that people go through when they implement change in their lives. Although the length of the cycle varies with each individual, once a person enters the cycle for a particular change, it usually lasts for about 12 months. Understanding the cycle of change that people go through can help you to discover where you are in the cycle and what it will take for you to move to the next stage.

The stages in the cycle of change are:
Pre-contemplationContemplationActionMaintenanceRelapse (Not everyone does this one)Exit

Let's consider each stage of the cycle.
The pre-contemplation stage: This is the stage where you don't see any reason to change so you don't. You will move out of this stage only when you get a personally compelling reason to do so. For example, losing your house may be a personally compelling reason to change a gambling habit for one person, but it won't be enough for another. Until you can find a personally compelling reason (i.e. something that compels you and not someone else, you will not enter the cycle and will not make change in your life.The contemplation stage: The contemplation stage can last for up to nine months and is the stage where you consider the issue and making change in your life. You will need motivation and determination to move into the next stage. You can help yourself to do this by identifying the resources you have and setting goals associated with the outcomes you would like as a result of the change you would like to make.The action stage: During the action stage of the cycle you implement the change in your life. You will find it relatively easy to maintain this phase for as long as it remains a novelty (usually about three months).The maintenance stage: After you have been in the action stage for a while, you will naturally move into the maintenance stage of the cycle. This is the stage where you monitor your success to date and adjust your actions if needed. If the change has been successfully implemented (as an unconscious behavior) you will exit the cycle of change. If things aren't progressing as well as you hoped, you will implement changes so you can successfully exit the cycle at a future stage... or you may go into the relapse stage.The relapse stage: Not everyone enters the relapse stage. Some people successfully integrate the change into their lives on their first attempt and exit the cycle. If you have not fully integrated the change into your life, you may have a relapse into your previous behavior. At this point, you may also be giving yourself a 'test' to see whether you have been successful. For example, an alcoholic may go out with friends to see if she can have just one drink.

After a relapse you will return to either the contemplation or the action stage of the cycle. You do not enter the pre-contemplation stage again as once you have considered the issue it can never again be unconsidered. Your way of looking at the world has changed forever. Regardless of where you re-enter the cycle, you are better off than you were before as you now have more information about your personal habits, barriers, boundaries and strengths than you had before you entered the cycle. You also have a better understanding of what is likely to trigger a future relapse. Once you re-enter the action stage of the cycle, you will usually stay there until you exit.

In summary you can see that if you wish to make change in your life, you won't do so until you find a reason that personally compels you (not someone else) to make the change. But once you have done so and you have entered the cycle of change, you will eventually make the change in your life.

- Sandra Rodman B Com LLB LLM Master Results Coach, Master Performance Consultant, Master NLP Practitioner, Master Ericsonian Hypnosis, Reiki Practitioner, Pellowah Practitioner and author of 'How To Be Your Own HERO' shares the secrets she has used and teaches others to have a healthy self esteem and resilience. More information and order link http://howtobeyourownhero.com/

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Life is complicated and you are constantly being pulled in multiple directions. It is very easy to get busy, and that busyness can lead you away from your Meaning of Life. It is important to stay focused but ambitious in trying to live happy.

Learn to say no and mean it. Not because you are selfish or mean, but because you need to protect your joy. That is a difficult thought to get around, so let me elaborate.

I felt led by God to become a children's pastor. I felt this deep in my soul and felt God had gifted me to this direction. Nothing I had ever done before felt meaningful as this did. Children are wonderful people and they listen.

For fifteen years I worked in my calling, my Meaning of Life, and then I got busy. Everyone asked me to do this or do that, some of them not related to my calling. I didn't want to hurt their feelings, so I complied. Then there wasn't enough time to do a good job and I started feeling overwhelmed with my calling. I guess you could say I burned out.

It still brings me joy, but I am now complacent to sit by the sidelines and watch others do and just offer my advice if asked. I know that my desire in my Meaning of Life has not diminished, and I Praise God everyday for allowing me to serve Him.

You find yourself giving and then a pet will give in return. It's hard to ignore a wiggly body and a tongue licking you with so much excitement to see you is a motivation to give more.

The Meaning of Life is what gives your joy, but you cannot find that if you are in a state of depression or loneliness. We tend to shut down with depression. Being in a mind state of excitement and joy will help you live longer, and seek other things out that will help you cope with life.

As soon as you find yourself moving and excited about moving, try to get out and find something that excites you even more. Museums, zoos, a great hike in the woods, something that will get you motivated to do more. Who knows, you might find that with that one puppy friend, life for you can turn around and you will find your Meaning of Live and be able to express yourself again.

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For those of us who are used to being constantly on the go it is easy to forget what it actually feels like to kick back and truly relax. There are many things which we do that we kid ourselves are relaxing when in reality this is not the case.

For example, we tend to assume that sitting on the sofa and watching the television is true relaxation. By comparison to zooming around the house doing various jobs it is indeed relaxing. But watching a horror movie is clearly not as relaxing as lying on a sandy beach listening to the sound of gentle waves upon the shore. What I'm getting at here is that the things which we think of as relaxing are usually seen in this way merely as a matter of comparison to other tasks and activities which we view as jobs, necessities, etc.

Not only that, we tend to simply fit our relaxation time is only when everything else has been dealt with; it does not, for most of us, hold a position of priority. We just grab a few minutes to ourselves whenever we can do so. Ideally we should all put time aside to devote to true rest and relaxation but in reality few of us actually do so; we know it's importance but we tend to ignore it.

And so when we do grab those few "stolen moments" the most important thing, I believe, is to use this time wisely. Make sure that you do make the most of these precious moments. A couple of times recently I spent time in the garden, sitting back, enjoying the sunshine and the gentle breeze, doing absolutely nothing except enjoying the moment. I realized that I really hadn't done that for quite a while.

The benefits I felt were immense. I felt truly relaxed, calm and peaceful. This feeling should be actively sought and experienced by each and every one of us for some part of every day. We cannot always lie in the garden, or depend upon the sun putting in an appearance. What we can rely upon though is the power of our own minds.

We can, in our imaginations, create a perfect environment. As a child you will no doubt remember creating many an imaginary world for yourself and becoming absorbed in whatever scenario you were playing out. We have a natural ability, a natural talent, to imagine and clearly visualize situations. And this visualization triggers feelings that are very true and very real. The imaginary images which we choose to create result in the experiencing of real feelings.

And relaxation, calmness and peacefulness are feelings; feelings which are vital to our sense of well-being in this world. Hypnosis provides a mental environment whereby ones imagination and visualization skills become naturally enhanced, and so you can easily create a mental world where you can relax in an instant and reap the associated benefits.

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Being critical and judgmental of oneself is one of the key components of human ego consciousness that is the most damaging. Your propensity for criticism and judgment are both overt and subtle. Recognizing that you are being critical and judgmental is first step to changing it.

For example, if you find it difficult to readily and graciously accept compliments, this is a sign that you tend to be critical and judgmental of yourself. Other ways in which this tendency expresses itself include seldom being satisfied with a job well done. When one seldom is satisfied with a job well done one is telling oneself, 'You are not good enough.' You are demanding that you be and do better and more often than not, get mad at yourself for not living up to high expectations. Being mad at yourself indicates that you need to rescue yourself from the learned ability to be unkind to yourself.

In short, when you are demanding and seldom allow yourself to 'measure up,' you send the message that you are 'not good enough.' Whenever you do this, you do damage that will need to be addressed later, and you sap your system of much-needed energy to do the tasks at hand. Being demanding of oneself is a waste of precious time and energy that you could use in positive ways.

When you understand the dynamics, you can think of the times when someone implied you were not 'good enough.' You certainly will recognize the feeling, but when you intentionally tune into it, you instinctively know that it is harmful on every level. When you understand the root of being critical and judgmental you can let go of its frantic nature. You can make informed and healthy choices. You can choose to love and accept yourself. You can engage your multitude of talents into a glorified expression of the Divine within.

Like any bad habit, being demanding of oneself can be a challenge to release. However, the more you feel the burden it places on you, the more motivated you will be to change.

The first step is to notice when you are being unreasonably demanding by noticing that you feel inadequate - 'not good enough.' As your awareness becomes more acute, your innate impulse toward kindness and well-being will be activated. Thus, you will know to move out of the 'demand' mode and into a positive and more natural mode of understanding and acceptance of yourself and your innate capabilities.

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The Missing Secret by Joe Vitale talks about how you can make the Law of Attraction work for you. If one thing is for sure, it is that the Law of Attraction is at work all of the time. You've been using it your entire life. The reason why you've failed and succeeded is due to your mind's subconscious beliefs in combination with your attitude.

This program is designed to help you make this well-known, universal law work for you positively, consistently, and automatically. Once you're aware of how the Law of Attraction has been working for you, you'll be able to turn a new leaf and fulfill all of your deepest desires. The Missing Secret is not only a guide for those who crave to learn more about how to utilize this fascinating law for their benefit, but also for those who have been trying to apply it but have failed to reap the results they want.

You'll find out how you can stop attracting what you don't want into your life, as well as learn why you've been doing so. Although you may possess a positive attitude, there is a chance that your life is still lacking in fulfillment. The key is to put an end to the subconscious beliefs that are causing you harm. When you don't believe something, you simply don't believe it. There is nothing that will change your core beliefs unless you get to work on changing you subconscious mind.

The Missing Secret by Joe Vitale will also help you to remove limitations. Chances are that you feel trapped in one way or another, never really able to excel to the degree that you want. There is always something coming up throwing you off track, leading you to discouragement and the false belief that things will always be the way they are. This program helps you to find out just what that "little something" is that is causing you bad luck, and teach you how to get rid of it.

When the Law of Attraction is used properly, it can also help you to heal illnesses, injuries, and also help you to avoid them. Much of this has to do with your level of awareness and belief in the fact that you will be protected. But of course, there is much more to it than simple belief. Most things in life require action. Individuals who are successful in life are action-oriented, always working toward their own benefit, as well as the benefit of others.

The Missing Secret will teach you how to become well-liked by everyone around you. If you're doing all that you can to make the Law of Attraction work for you but are not attracting positivity from others, your attempts at happiness may be defeated due to the amount of negativity that surrounds you from others.

Likewise, this program will also help you to understand why bad things happen to good people, and vice versa. You might be spending all your time hard at work for a brighter future, but if your core belief it is that you will only make it so far, then there is no way that you will achieve success, unless you know how to make The Missing Secret work for you.

Imagine for a moment your life just as you want it. Try to think big, not allowing anything to hold you back. Forget what your family and friends think. Remove all worries from your mind. Imagine a perfect world, one where there is no one looking down on you and everyone loves you and accepts you for who you are. Think of yourself as a millionaire, someone who has everything they want including a happy family, wonderful kids, a beautiful home, a nice car (or a dozen), etc. The Missing Secret by Joe Vitale helps you to understand that this is the type of life that is available to you - if you only believe.

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The ability of an individual to keep a close tab on himself will determine the extent to which he can succeed in life. The power of choice has already been bestowed on man right from the onset and the moment we decide to move in the direction of our goal and purpose without wavering, success becomes inevitable.

We must however learn to exercise restrain in some specific areas of our life if we ever hope to make maximum impact in life. Below are some of the vital areas we must pay particular attention to:

Your thought

When an individual fails to take a hold of his thought, the tendency is for the individual to be controlled by that same thought. Every positive or negative action a man undertakes started as a thought in the subconscious. When Cain was decided to kill Abel his brother, it all started as a thought and he eventually implemented that evil thought which resulted in the death of an innocent soul. The thought of man is like a chain reaction which if initiated can be very difficult to stop.

Your eyes

Job declared in the book of Job 31:1- "I made a covenant with mine eyes; why then should I think upon a maid? He knew the importance of disciplining the eyes and this resulted in his taking a radical vow. David on the other hand failed to take heed to the advice of Job and paid dearly for it. When other men had gone to war, he went up to his balcony and he saw what he ought not to see- a naked woman bathing.

The sight of a naked woman bathing stirred up his male hormone and before he knew what was happening, he had committed adultery. To cover up his track, he had to commit. It all started from an innocuous glance which later turned fatal.

Your tongue

The tongue is the smallest but most powerful organ of the human body. The inability of people to control their tongue has resulted to some destinies been destroyed prematurely. A careless word spoken can set in motion a chain of destructive actions which can leave in its trail tears, sorrow and shattered dreams.

At the peak of their career, the Beatles one of the best rock band to ever come out from the face of the earth in the 1960's had a press conference where they came face to face with the world press.

At the press conference, one of the band members John Lennon made a very careless statement which till date he regretted. He said that the Beatles were more popular than the Lord Jesus Christ. That was beginning of the downfall of the Beatles as the band later disintegrated after few years.

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Self help audio files are one of the ways to treat yourself from any problems you are experiencing. Some doctors are also using this method to treat their patients. This helps to set them on the right mood and take the chance to relax from the external and internal pressures. Furthermore, these self help audio files have various purposes depending on your need. Thus, you can listen to these self help audio files depending on the problem that plagues you.

What are the advantages of using these self help audio files?

Aside from the help it provides, self help audio files can be played while doing something else or while resting. Unlike books, you have to be attentive to what you are reading. You have to put all your attention to the words indicated in the self help books. Moreover, self help books and these audio files provide you tips and guides on how to overcome your addiction or any problems. Yet, the difference is only the convenience of its use.

Repeating these self help audio can be done easily. This is another advantage of using this self help material. You can play it all over again and listen to it attentively. This will set the positive mood within you and get away with the many negative vibes that you are feeling.

With the many advantages and help of this material, you have also to understand your own task. What are your tasks to improve yourself?

Self help audio files are still considered as external help. With the many tips and guides that you can acquire in this material, there is an implied task that you should be able to imbibe the lessons you get. To help you imbibe the lessons provided by the self help audio files, you can repeat them many times. Make these lessons as your motivation to move on and start a new beginning. This is one of the best ways to absorb the tips and guides of these self help materials and alleviate the addiction or any problems that your are experiencing.

Furthermore, use these lessons in your daily dealings. In this way, you can start practicing the changes that you would want to happen. An example of this is when you are addicted to cigarettes; make yourself busy so that you will forget your cravings for smoke. However, if you will not act on the necessary changes to help you alleviate your problem, things will just be the same even if you will repeat the self help audio files frequently.

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I do not live in a little house in the woods, nearly self-sufficient as Henry David Thoreau describes in his little book Walden. His experiment of temporary separation from all that might challenge his choices most of us will not want or be able to choose.

So, I would like to take the highway restrictions as a screening of my concern for my brother/sister. Freedom and Responsibility - big words with big daily demands.

Slowing down, passing safely, stopping for pedestrians even when they jaywalk, leaving well on time and not exceeding speed limits are such good, thoughtful attitudes. BUT why is there this wicked voice inside my head tempting me to bad driving or bad temper when things do not go as I wish. My freedom to do as I need or want has been restricted by others who have their own needs and wants.

Is it doing what I want when I want and how I want the proper understanding of freedom?

Parents must train children to be concerned for family members, school mates, team mates--all in preparation for a life of peaceful give and take. Am I, as an adult, exempt from these controls simply because I'm now independent, making my own decisions?

Reflection: Suppose it is the middle of the night or after the rush hour, not a soul in sight, why not go through that red light? No harm will be done to anyone. But is that true? Harm will come to me will it not? Break the law a little bit or break the law a lot. Be caught or not, my spirit will have a chip or crack in its integrity, my regard for others will be blunted, dulled.

What is this integrity? Is it not simply the freedom to discipline the heart, the mind, the will to do right. My decision to avoid the 'little' temptations those pesky visitors inside my head nudging me to 'just this once won't matter' actions. If I avoid making these so important mini decisions they add up, and up, and up and make a big chip and a real dent in my integrity, my concern and my care for everyone.

My mother once told me: 'what good you do adds to the store of goodness in the world--but what negligence and /or wickedness you permit yourself adds to the depletion of goodness in the world. Little actions, all actions, have broad significance. Everything you do matters.'

Freedom is not license. I come to realize that in conforming to wise guidelines set by society for the peaceful functioning of all members I am in fact using my freedom to accept the limits which allow others to live in safety, in peace, and in freedom.

And the Bonus--I have interior quiet voices now. I also contribute to the store of goodness, patience, and self-control in the world. A very uplifting reward! Rules of the road are good tutors as rules of living in harmony with myself and with my fellow citizens.

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The use of colour for ourselves and for our homes makes all the difference to how we feel and how other people respond to us. Presentation determines how we all respond to situations and people, often without even realising it.

- Language. The words we use reveal how we are feeling and colour is often a part of that. 'Seeing red' means that a person is angry and inflamed. Happy people talk about feeling bright, radiant and glowing. Gloomy people will talk of dark, black moods, feeling dreary and dull. We may look to lighten or brighten a mood. The effective use of colour can improve and enhance a situation.

- Food. How would you feel if someone presented you with a plate of food all one colour? White chicken, white wine or cheese sauce, mashed potatoes, cauliflower, etc. It might taste fine, but I doubt if it would satisfy or be considered especially appealing to eat. Many of us eat with our eyes first and colour is a significant factor in the equation.

- Home. Use of colour can make our home a warm and welcoming haven. Some people use colour differently in the Winter than in the Summer. Winter is often about warmer colours, textures and fabrics. Thicker curtains and cushions can make a room feel cosy. Reds, oranges and purples are warm colours that can brighten a room. Lighting is especially important in Winter. Lamps and wall lights are often more cosy than overhead lighting. Candles and firelight can cast a warm glow and change the look and use of colour in a room.

Summer colours can be cooler, lighter and cleaner. People often like to use outdoors more in Summer, so windows will be open letting sunlight and fresh air into their home. Lighter curtains, bright shades and pastels often make for a Summery feel.

Different rooms can have a different use of colour to reflect the individual personality of each occupant as well as tie in with the room's specific use. There is a different ambiance required in a dining room, study or bedroom and colour can be used to good effect to maximise the room's atmosphere and mood.

- People are affected by colour. Seeing someone dressed in a bright, colourful outfit can lift our mood and make us smile. Our choice of colour in our clothing can send a message about how we are feeling. We can choose to brighten our mood by wearing more colourful clothes. It is more difficult to feel gloomy if we are dressed brightly. Often people will receive us in a warmer way if we look bright and cheerful, which in turn helps us to feel better. Sun-tanned bodies often make people look healthy and attractive. Colour can make all the difference.

- Colourful gifts are a pleasure to receive. A lovely bouquet of flowers are a brightly wrapped gift can be enough to brighten up our day. Cheerful greetings cards are fun to display and remind us of the sender with a smile.

Colour is an important part of life. We come across it constantly, from the amazing year-long cycle of nature's colours and even the different shades of green, through to the colours of life around us. Cars, shop windows, fashion are an ever-changing parade of colours. Appreciating the diversity and enjoying it can brighten our lives.

Susan Leigh is a Counsellor and Hypnotherapist who works with
- stressed individuals to promote confidence and self belief,
- couples in crisis to help improve communications and
- with business clients to help support the health and motivation levels of individuals and teams

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Your life is a holographic reflection of your experiences from our first breath to the present. Many people believe we are a holographic reflection of experiences beginning from the source until the present.

When you examine your feelings about something you might notice that the feeling you have is based on family patterns. If you trace your feelings back to its source, you might find that one of your parents reacted/responded with the feeling that you are exhibiting. For example, your mother or father might have had an intense fear of lack of money, stemming from their life experiences. If that fear was not resolved, chances are you carried it into your life. Meanwhile, you may have no actual experience of lacking money, so being fearful does not make sense, and now the fear of lacking money blocks you from doing certain things that you want to do.

Keep in mind that your parents managed their lives and yours to the best of their ability. There was no intent to pass negative beliefs about money. Yet, that is what transpired. However, you can change it when you discover you have carried fear of lacking money into your life.

You can not resolve anyone's fear for them, but you can decide to let go of it on your behalf. Whether your parents are alive or not, it is best to complete a symbolic 'letting go' of any fears that belong to them.

An easy 'letting go,' exercise is simple. Visualize inviting your parents to sit across from you in a room and share your desire to move on from the fear. Tell them that you know that they did their best with no intent to instill fear or harm you in any way. Then, forgive them from your heart. You might be surprised at how easy this exercise is.

Doing deep inner work with your fears will serve you well for yourself and for your children; if you currently have children or when you have children. If you have already seen the effects of your fears within your children, remember any changes you make now will be passed down to them. Either way, the effects will be felt, because once you break your ties of fears from the past, your children's ties to those fears are greatly weakened. It is important to remember that is it never too late to have a new beginning.

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External View
Obama's skull structure is elongated and full of bulges and depressions. This is due to the sunken temples, which create bony bulges at the outer edge of his straight eyebrows' which are very close to his eyes. The other characteristics in his face also add to the special facial structure, evident in the pointy ears and the sunken, shiny eyes. Despite the sharp edges of his face, his straight nose ends with wide nostrils and his lower lip is full.

Internal view
The new leader
An exceptional man is always judged by the structure of his face. The skull structure and the sunken temples of the first black president of the United States are characteristic of a modern leader: a super-competitive nature, strong visual memory and very tactful, all of which enable him to be very politically correct at any given moment. Obama is very independent and meticulous, as one can learn from the structure of his wide nose and nostrils, and he will never make a move without thinking about it deeply and seriously, as his sunken eyes attest.

Denzel, behind you!
Neatness and cleanliness are very important to someone with a high aesthetic sense such as Obama. His meticulousness and high rhetoric are strengthened by his straight eyebrows and expression lines on his face. Without a doubt, Obama is a natural actor, perfect for today's America.

Yes I Can
Whether it's because of his eyes, which radiate positive energy, or his eyebrows, which are close to the eyes and radiate a compelling "everyman" feel, everybody who finds himself in Obama's presence will discover a man who is very difficult to resist, and even harder to persuade. He can be generous, as can be seen by his lower lip, but at the same time his ears point to a tendency for possessiveness, so there are things he will keep close to himself. When you put it all together you find a man who can see things from every possible angle and so reach the hearts of his listeners.

Personology is a scientific system that allows for personality analysis based on facial features - it's as simple as that!
All of us are born with a different face, but a great deal of research conducted over the past 10 years has shown that there are 74 recurring features from which the face of every person on the globe is constructed. What is more, these features can be used to help us discover more about the person sitting opposite us, from our partner to our children, from our friends and to our work colleagues.

Your face tells it all? Yes, it does!
80% of our face's structure is decided by inherited genetic factors that are not related to race, sex or the culture we come from and already determine many personality characteristics. For example, Hilary Clinton's exaggerated cheeks that she inherited from her parents, point to the fact that she has an adventurous personality, a love of trips and changes in her life. The remaining 20%, that influence our looks, are determined by varying factors such as environmental influence and our personality.

How does it work? A good question!
Behind every face hide at least 60 muscles which, like every other muscle in our bodies also age and change form over the years according to our facial expressions and influence or affect our facial features. In other words, if we smile a lot, the eyes screw up and small lines develop around them. When we concentrate, the muscles in our forehead contract and create a small bulge at the front of the muscle. When we listen to secrets we stretch our lips until they become thinner. Everybody's muscles are built in exactly the same way and therefore, clear signs are created that are easy to identify and difficult to fake.

The face is our job
At Face-Read.com your personality, that of your partner, children or work colleagues is analyzed by measuring the structure of facial muscles, the distance between various facial features and through the accumulated research experience in the field of character a personality analysis is generated that includes sense of humor, seriousness and commitment at work and also measures reliability and loyalty to the highest of levels and standards.

Eytan Segev
A leading Face reader and Personologist
Eytan Developed the best online and cellular application that represents the next generation in personalization and personality analysis techniques. The application was developed according to facial characteristics, developing a new, cutting edge technologies that will revolutionize the science of personalization and character analysis across the world and make them available to all with just a couple of clicks on your mouse.
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"Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it is letting go." -Herman Hesse

When first going through the heartache that goes along with a divorce or breakup you may think you will never get beyond the pain. You may think you are going to live with this heartache for the rest of your life and you just know that you will never meet anyone again that you love as much.

Well the good news is; you're wrong. The bad news is that you have to go through it to get to the other side. But, eventually you will get through it and you will survive. There are stages of grieving that you will experience until you get to acceptance.

Getting over heartache is never easy but if you believe that you will survive; you will get through it sooner rather than later. On the other hand, if you hold onto the hope that maybe, just maybe things will work out or you constantly relive the past, wallow in why, what if, and if only; you will only prolong the inevitable.

Once you accept the truth, when the reality finally sets in that your relationship really is over, is the time that you will begin the healing process. But healing will not happen until you truly accept that things are never going to be the way you wanted.

Heartache happens to every person on the planet in one way or another and along with time healing your wounds; making smart, healthy choices while going through the grieving process with help you get to the other side much faster. Below are some of the good and bad choices you can make to make it easier or harder to get through.

UNHEALTHY CHOICES:

* Continuing to keep in contact: calling, texting, asking to meet; just one more time.

* Rehashing the past all day, every day with anyone who will listen.

* Longing to understand why; this one is a biggie - 99% of the time you will never know why or if they do give you a reason, who knows if it's the truth? So the sooner you give up on wanting something you may never get, the better off you'll be!

* Allowing yourself to wallow, having daily pity parties and constantly asking, "Why me?"

* Wishing things were different and hoping things will work out.

HEALTHY CHOICES:

* Keep yourself as busy as possible; surround yourself with the people who love you and want to see you heal.

* Exercise! I don't care what you do just do something even if it's only for 10 minutes a day. This is the # 1 thing you can do for yourself that will help you feel better on all levels. * Begin to believe you will survive and that there is a whole big wonderful life ahead of you.

So, if you are getting over the heartache of losing someone you love, know that this is only a temporary situation; this too shall pass. Know that you will survive and move on to have a great life again. And, more importantly begin to believe that you will and you will.

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Two weeks ago I said yes to a morning at trapeze school. Naively as it turned out. It was absolutely terrifying! But I jumped anyway. Five times in all. And while I wouldn't race back to do it again, I'm glad I did it. Because hanging upside down 23 feet above the net (though if felt like 1,000 feet!), I knew I was well and truly alive. To me that is what life is ultimately all about - being willing to step (in this case jump) outside our comfort, push the envelope of possibility and live in such a way that we know we are "well and truly alive".

Many people I meet don't feel "well and truly alive" in at least one area of their life. We human beings are really much more 'human becomings' than anything else... always in the process of becoming all that we really want to be - whether in our relationships, our career or business, to stay fit and eat well, to gain mastery of a skill, or to be as productive, generous or influential as we would like.

Earlier this week I asked my Facebook Courage Community what they believed is the #1 factor holding people back in work, love or life. Most replies reflected what we generally know to be true, but are often loathe to admit: that the biggest obstacle to our success and happiness is ourselves. And while it may present in different ways -- laziness, procrastination, cynicism, arrogance, recklessness, apathy, despair -- at its core is the primal emotion of fear. Fear of failure or looking foolish; fear of rejection and disapproval; fear of not measuring up, of being inadequate, alone or unloved.

While our fears can serve a positive role, they can also trap us in jobs, relationships, habits, and lives of quiet desperation that leave us thirsty for purpose, hungry for depth and disconnected from the unique potential that lies within us. A billion dollar industry of anti-anxiety and anti-depressant drugs speaks for itself. Indeed, countless people live their entire lives trapped in false beliefs, shrouded under a cloud of fear so pervasive that they are not even aware they are trapped, in their own life. Fear has become the new normal.

As someone who is intimately acquainted with the life-sucking force that fear can wield, I am convinced that creating success, however you choose to define it, requires confronting our fears straight on. Fears that keep us from taking chances and making changes; from challenging the status quo; speaking up about that which weighs us down and daring to stand out in the crowd. But to quote Amelia Earhart: "Courage is the price that life extracts for granting peace."

Neuro-scientific research into "brain plasticity" has now proven that when you choose to think new thoughts, repeatedly, and take new actions, repeatedly, those thoughts and actions gradually build new neural pathways in your brain that over time become your default. And so, with persistence, you can gradually build up your "courage muscles" and with it, your self-confidence to do things you would previously have cowered from, your ability to lead, to influence, and to produce amazing results in your life. Over time the action that you would once have cowered from no longer terrifies you and the path of courage becomes easier to take -- even if not "easy". That said, I am not going to jump off the trapeze again. Never ever ever!

With the exception of trapeze school, the best things I've ever done in my life have also been the scariest. Time and time again I've learned that often the thing we must do more than anything else is that thing that scares us more than anything else. (Oh, one other exception: marrying my husband Andrew -- it was one of the best things I've done but not scary at all!)

Of course the fears you face are yours alone, as is what inspires you and how you define success. This isn't about comparisons. It's simply about being willing to challenge the stories, excuses and beliefs that may be getting in the way of your 'success' in whatever area of your life you feel it's lacking. And it's about having the courage to step right through the middle of your fears and into whatever actions are calling you forward.

Only by daring to dive deeply into life can we soar to the heights of success we aspire to. As Helen Keller said, "Life is a daring adventure or nothing." Where could you embrace a spirit of adventure that calls you to step out of your comfort zone and step into your life more fully?

Fortune favors the bold! Where is your life waiting on you to bolden up?

Margie Warrell is a thought leader in human potential, master life coach, international speaker, media contributor and best-selling author of Find Your Courage.

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